Just Let It Go

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I am NEVER going to tell you not to let it in or just don’t let it bother you.  People can be assholes and while I agree that there are more students than yogis, I’m not zen enough to simply not let people’s bad behavior bother me.

You are allowed to have your rant, let it all out, and get mad.  Bitch about it and scream into your pillow.  Call your best friend and discuss what so-and-so did, why they are a jerk, and how their mommy dresses them funny.  Have too much ice cream and use language that would make your grandmother cringe.  Feel it and express it, but then you have to learn to let it go.

“Holding onto anger is like holding onto a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one that gets burned.”  ~Buddha

The people around you are going to hurt you.  People do shitty things because they are insecure, because they want to feel important, because they don’t know any better, and because they legitimately want to hurt you sometimes.  They demonstrate bad behavior for so many reasons.  Please, allow me to validate you here….You have every right to get mad about it, to allow it to hurt your feelings, and wish the circumstances were different.

That being said, staying angry only hurts you.  Anger will rot you faster than cancer.  They are not the ones losing sleep at night being upset.  They are not using their limited amount of time and energy to dwell on the situation.  You have a limited amount of time and energy with which to spend and expend on this planet.  Only you choose how you spend it.

Whether you are holding onto your children too tight and need to relinquish the worry and control (which is only an illusion anyway).  Whether you need to move on from a past hurt.  Whether you are holding out for your ex to finally understand you.  Whether you need to release yourself from a relationship that is crushing your spirit (we are little old for frenemies, guys).  No matter what you are holding onto, you need to let it go.  You are only hurting yourself and who the hell has time for that anyway?

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